What is the difference?

Love Addiction & Codependency. Although they are very similar there are a few subtle differences. Codependency is defined as emotional immaturity caused by childhood relational trauma. For example, if you were in a constant state of having to please or take care of a parent you will then project that onto your Relationships as an adult.

You will do for others what they can do for themselves. For example, if you had a parent that was emotionally immature and was depressed, anxious, or even had a substance-abuse problem then most likely you turned into a parent at a very early age. Unconsciously in your adult relationships you will pick people to take care of who are immature and needy. Even though you don’t want to repeat these old patterns you keep repeating them.

Love Addicts

Love addicts on the other hand have experiences with one or both caretakers where there is more neglect then there was enmeshment. So as a child your parents may have been present, but they weren’t really there for you to get to know who you were. They may have been busy working or just simply emotionally unavailable. As a child you may have felt invisible or like you didn’t really matter. Now as an adult you unconsciously pick people to be in relationships with better also neglecting you. Although at first it doesn’t really seem so.



Whether you have codependency or Love Addiction you still need specific targeted therapy like Post Induction Therapy to unlock your brain. Regular therapy is not specific and will not help the pathways in the brain with this kind of trauma. You also need targeted specific coaching on being mature and learning how to love and live like a functional adult.